Our Preemie Story
Many of you know me and my husband [name] as we have been a part of the [office] team [husband] for 6 years and myself for 5. Some of you will remember when [husband] and I announced we were having twins. That pregnancy was very hard on me and I was on emergency medical bed rest at 24 weeks to prevent preterm labor, which we had already experienced with our oldest daughter. In the end we were able to prevent the birth of the twins until I was 35 weeks. For twins that is a good gestation.
The week prior to the birth of our twins I had begged my doctor for the steroid shots to develop the babies lungs as they were scheduled to be delivered via C-section at 35 weeks and 5 days or 04/30/2012. Only we never made it to the scheduled date. The day the twins were born, 04/25/2012, [husband] came home with lunch and then returned to the office, only for me to call him an hour later informing him that I had gone into labor. After running around the office, unable to find a supervisor, he rushed home to pick me up. And we were off to the hospital.
***Time out... why is it important to the story you're telling to include your husband "...running around the office, unable to find a supervisor..."? That doesn't add narrative that progress the plot. All it does is take up space and vilify the many people in the office who could be considered supervisors for your husband, and who are allowing you to spread your ignorant, vile, hate-filled message via their email, you fucking cunt. Time in...***
By the time we got to [the hospital], the contractions were already a minute apart and it was very scary, on my part. We were in an operating room within 45 minutes of walking into the door at the hospital. [The girl twin] and [the boy twin] were born at 4:51 PM within 15-30 seconds apart and have the same time on their birth certificates. In the midst of all the joy there was fear; [girl twin] couldn’t breathe on her own and [boy twin] was having trouble with very labored breathing. Both of our newborns were rushed to the NICU with [husband] on the heels of the NICU team. [Girl twin] was placed on a Ventilator and [boy twin] was placed on a CPAP. We were getting ready for a long haul, but were blessed when they were released from the NICU 11 days later on 05/05/2012. They are now very active, opinionated, and just completely joyous soon to be 3 year olds. Had it not been for the research the March of Dimes has done, [girl twin] wouldn’t be here today and it is ify that [boy twin] would be.
Here's my huge beef with this story: the last line is a total speculation wrapped up as a fact, and this happens all the time in our world. The accurate, honest way to express her sentiments might look like this: "My children benefited greatly because of the research the March of Dimes has done, possibly even owing their lives to this charity. Understandibly, this is very important to me, and I think it should be to you, too."
Going back to the way it's worded, it starts with a speculation-- "Had it not been for the research...". We cannot go back in time and see how things would be right now without the research that was done back then. In fact, her statement is not only speculative but also based on a type of Worst Case scenario where only the March of Dimes is capable of the research they did, and without them, no one else would have done the same research or even seen the need to do this research, making the same or similar research unavailable at the time of the twins' births.
This kind of statement is indicative of dangerously ignorant thinking. Like, "Had it not been for the anti-terrorism measures we took in this country, countless lives would have been taken by more terrorist attacks on domestic soil, perhaps in the form of a mushroom cloud. We must continue to fund and support these measures so that we don't have to face more attacks like 9/11, or worse."
People are the worst.
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