Listen

A couple brings their 7-year-old son to the doctor.
"Our boy is sexually deviant, poops himself, and doesn't do anything we tell him to."
The doctor gives the child a diagnosis of Mood Disorder, ADHD and prescribes medications.
The parents apply for disability for their child and are approved.
They receive taxpayer money.
Their son doesn't learn how to care for himself.

Another couple talks to their 7-year-old son.
"We know you're at an age where it's important for you to know about sex."
And then they talk with their child about sex and all he needs to know.
And it's a considerate, thoughtful, respectful talk where the boy learns and doesn't feel judged.
And he actually learns how to take care of himself and not be scared or frightened.
And in this talk, the child admits there is a bully at school.
And the parents talk with the teachers at the school.
And the bullying issue is resolved.
And the boy stops pooping himself.

Start listening to the people who need to be listened to.
Listen to what isn't being said.
The parents say, "Our kid is a fuck-up."
Now ask for the kid's side.
And listen.
It'll be easy to tell if he's a fuck-up or not.
The doctor says, "The kid has a diagnosis."
Now ask for the kid's side.
And listen.
Listen to what isn't said.
The advertisement says something. It wants your money.
The cop says something. He is terrified of not being out of control. He is terrified.
The court says something. They want to appear to know the answers.
The attorney, the ex-husband, the mother say something. They want to hurt you.

A man beats his wife.
As he does so, he yells at her,
"I love you!"
She takes him to court.
"Isn't it true that your husband tells you he loves you on a daily basis?"
She answers yes, it's true.
What isn't said is that he's beating her.

LISTEN.
REALLY LISTEN.
And put the story together yourself.