The Text I Just Received

Me (to my wife): Please tell me you're ok.

My wife (to me, edited): He lied and lied and LIED!!! about me and I didn't get to defend myself! I had an email example for almost everything he threw out and when he realized that he just started making shit up! I think [the therapist] got it and recognized that he was blaming and distracting and didn't focus on my reply because that isn't the point of why we're there. The boys are the point. She asked [him] what areas we should communicate about and he kept going off on tangents about why he wouldn't communicate with me and she kept bringing him back and he kept going off on tangents so she asked me and I said school, health, and well=being. She agreed with all of those and added one more that I can't remember right now. Basically, she said that the expectations I have of communication from [him] are entirely appropriate and continued to explain to [him] why every time he argued why he shouldn't communicate with me. She told me I should cut down on the wordage in my communications (which I have already done) and to avoid you statements (which I already do). She told [him] that, IF he really is concerned about the boys and IF he wants everything he does to be in their best interests then he MUST communicate with me about these things. I specifically asked about dr. appts, illnesses, medications, girlfriends/fiances/wives (she was particularly adamant about that being shared information), stress, emotional states, teeth falling out, school progress - ALL of which she agreed wholeheartedly SHOULD be communicated about freely! There wasn't anything I (or [he]) mentioned that she thought didn't need to be communicated about. [He] got into wanting to set boundaries and talked about how inappropriate it was for me to come into his home or got to the boys' bedrooms when invited by them. She was visibly disturbed by that from him and said we would address it next time.