Our 9 year-old's guitar Teacher has moved to an apartment about 30 miles away from us.
Typically, when our 9 year-old is at his father's house, Teacher travels the less-than-a-mile distance from his old apartment to AssCan's house to give the lesson to our 9 year-old. When our 9 year-old is at our house, my wife or I will travel the over-five-mile distance to Teacher's old apartment to get 9 year-old to the lesson. We will sit in the car and wait until the lesson is over, as we're sometimes not invited to come in to Teacher's apartment to watch the lesson, or sometimes the 9 year-old doesn't want us in there. Whatever the case, we normally sit in the car for 35 minutes and wait for the lesson to end before making the over-five-mile distance trip back to our house.
Guitar Teacher moved to an apartment about 30 miles away from us.
So last night, my wife contacts Teacher via text on the cell phone. She asks if guitar lessons are still on. Teacher texts back, saying that he had talked with AssCan about this and he was "surprised" that he and my wife hadn't talked about the arrangements, but that, due to AssCan's busy schedule, our 9 year-old wouldn't be able to do guitar this summer. Teacher said that he didn't want "guitar to take a back burner", and it sounded like guitar would take a back burner because of the schedule, so they were going to stop and see what happened in the fall. My wife said that she had hoped for more communication, as AssCan's schedule is only 50% of our 9 year-old's schedule, and neither my wife nor our 9 year-old had been told about this adjustment, however she understood and would see Teacher in the fall.
She then emailed AssCan and told him that Teacher had texted and repeated the words that Teacher had said. She then added that she had hoped for more communication between AssCan and herself regarding 9 year-old's schedule. She also mentioned that 9 year-old hadn't been told about this change and it would be good to tell him about those changes also.
AssCan then telephones our home number twice, only leaving a message once, saying that he wanted to talk with my wife and our 9 year-old. He has the cell phone numbers of my wife and our 9 year-old. My wife then calls him on the cell phone, and immediately he starts yelling at her and cursing, and my wife says that she will not be spoken to in this manner and they can resume this conversation when he's more calm. He called back less than a minute later. My wife put him on speakerphone. He said that she was lying about all the information contained in her email. She stated that she was merely repeating texts from Teacher, and that if communication had happened, none of this would be happening. He then told her that she was lying to him about the texts, and that he had already spoken about changing guitar teachers with my wife's mother (who is paying for the lessons). I asked our 9 year-old if he knew about his father's plans to change teachers, and 9 year-old said no, he liked Teacher and didn't know of any plans to change teachers. AssCan continued to tell my wife that she was lying about the text messages between Teacher and herself and that she was "going to use this" against him-- presumably in court. When my wife (yet again) told AssCan that she always welcomed communication between the two of them, AssCan insisted that she always had snide comments for him and didn't provide a place for him to feel comfortable communicating with her. AssCan then talked with our 9 year-old and told him that the two of them would talk more when 9 year-old returned to AssCan's house tonight.
A few minutes later, Teacher called my wife's cell phone. He said that AssCan had just called him and spoken with him about the situation and said that he was sorry that my wife and he "had gotten their wires crossed" regarding guitar lessons. He said that if our 9 year-old still wanted to do lessons, he might be able to do them this summer, although Teacher was busy and it sounded like our 9 year-old would be busy with sports. We didn't know about any sports that our 9 year-old was involved in, so we asked our 9 year-old. He said he didn't know of any sports that he was involved in. Teacher and my wife said that they would continue to talk, and the conversation ended.
My wife then emailed AssCan and told him that it was inappropriate for him to curse and yell at her over the phone, and from now on they could communicate in person or through email.
That was how we went to bed last night.
This morning, my wife has already emailed me and told me that she has received 3 emails from AssCan concerning this incident. She states that the emails "are crazy". She has attempted to contact our lawyer via email and telephone, but, as yet, no response.
Tonight, AssCan comes to pick up the boys.
I'm nervous that he will cause harm, physical or emotional, to somebody. I really hope that doesn't happen.
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