From: [my wife]
Date: August 28, 2012 8:24:55 AM CDT
To: [our lawyer]
Subject: [our 16-year-old] and his Dad
[our lawyer]~
[our 16-year-old] and [his dad] had a meeting scheduled with [our 16-year-old's therapist] yesterday at 5pm. [our 16-year-old's dad] called and cancelled it at 3pm. It is rescheduled for next Tuesday, Sept. 4th, at 6pm.
[my wife]
From: [my wife]
Sent: Wednesday, September 05, 2012 8:20 AM
To: [our lawyer]
Subject: Fwd: [our 16-year-old] and his Dad
[our lawyer] ~
After [our 16-year-old's dad] cancelled the meeting last week, stating that he needed "more time to think", [our 16-year-old] contacted his father asking if he could "get some of my stuff". [our 16-year-old's dad] never responded.
Their meeting with [our 16-year-old's therapist] was last night. It ended 30 minutes late with [our 16-year-old] coming out to the car extremely distraught and weeping. I have not heard from [our 16-year-old's therapist] yet (as I imagine she was spent as well) so my info is from [our 16-year-old]'s perspective only. [our 16-year-old] has felt very hurt and angry with his father for a very long time and multiple things have added up to him being very resistant to spending any time with his father at all. [our 16-year-old's therapist] and I have both encouraged him to come up with any little amount of time that he might be willing to spend with his dad, as compromising might hopefully lead to a quicker resolve. [our 16-year-old's dad]'s neglect of and non-response to [our 16-year-old] was not helping. After and hour and a half in the meeting last night, [our 16-year-old] finally agreed to go to dinner with his dad occasionally IF [his dad] would let him come get his stuff. [Dad] said that he ([dad]) needed more time to process things and that [our 16-year-old] could not get his belongings. At that point [our 16-year-old] had had all he could take of the talking in circles and angrily walked out. He was absolutely undone and sobbing. It took until very late last night for him to get calm and be able to rest.
[our 16-year-old's dad] has had 6 1/2 WEEKS to process and think about things. He is stalling and punishing [our 16-year-old]. All of this trauma and unresolved conflict has made it almost impossible for [our 16-year-old] to focus and concentrate in school, which is already a MAJOR challenge for him on good days. [our 16-year-old's dad]'s behavior is neglectful and abusive at best. He has still not communicated with me about any of this.
I am not going to subject [our 16-year-old] to any more meetings with his father unless I am present - assuming [our 16-year-old] would agree to it himself at all. I encouraged [our 16-year-old] to contact [his lawyer and the gardian ad litem] about what has happened and he refuses, believing "it will just be the same thing as with [meetings with my therapist and dad] of taking forever and nothing getting accomplished and she doesn't listen to me and I'm not going through that again!" I don't feel [our 16-year-old] is in a place where pursuing things with [his lawyer] would be good for him.
[our 16-year-old's dad] has submitted doctor and dentist bills to me for reimbursement of about $500. I am disinclined to have any moneys be exchanged between us until the MAJOR changes that [our 16-year-old's dad] has autonomously made to the custody and visitation agreement have been appropriately and satisfactorily settled.
Thoughts?
[my wife]
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From: [our lawyer]
Date: September 5, 2012 11:13:13 AM CDT
To: [my wife]
Subject: RE: [our 16-year-old] and his Dad
I think you need to follow the order of the Court on your portion of medical bills. [our lawyer]
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